11 January 2015
Friday, 17 July 2015
I'm just wanting to post an update to let those of you know who are following along on how my brother is doing.
For those of you who are just now seeing/hearing about this, my brother (Seth's dad) was involved in a severe accident (it was an attempted murder) July 17th, Friday afternoon. He was walking across the street to visit with a friend when a car carrying the woman who he thought loved him and another man. They struck him with the car and proceeded to run over my brother dragging him for about 40-50 feet before fleeing the scene. A neighbor heard the commotion afterward and called 911. My brother was rushed to Ben Taub Hospital which is our trauma ICU hospital. He has various head injuries, multiple lacerations and road rash/burns, but worst of all is that his pelvis is broken into 3 pieces and has also been broken away from his spine. His urethra has also been torn pretty badly.
He will be having his first operation today beginning at around 2pm to repair his urethra, and if possible, they will try to repair at least one of the fractures as well.
Unfortunately, my brother does not have any medical insurance. We don't really have a true prognosis yet; the doctors said he could take a minimum of 6 months to "heal" if he really ever does. This will more than likely affect him the rest of his life. I really cannot stand to ask for financial help; I am usually one who donates to others, but in this situation, we are quite literally desperate. If any of you are in a place where you can financially help, even if it is just $1.00, we would be so very thankful for your generosity. My brother will have mountains of medical expenses adding up. Seth also will have living expenses and my brother will be unable to work for who knows how long. He will be going through physical therapy and rehabilitation as well as having to deal with pain management and prescriptions and orthopedic and urologist doctors appointments.
I have set up a GoFundMe account for my brother that you may check out.
***New Way to Donate***
I have received a few comments asking if people could donate through PayPal since they are unable to use GoFundMe for whatever reason. For this reason, I'm using my stock fund PayPal account as a secondary method for anyone who wants to make a donation through it.
My PayPal email address is: Damsel@ADamselinDesign.com should someone wish to donate through PayPal instead.
Again, you guys just have no idea how much I hate asking for help. It really hurts having to do this. I would like to let you all know that anyone who does donate something will receive a small little something in thanks from me. I will also be accepting limited commissions to help raise money, though my time will be limited, and I am selling prints and stock as well. If there is anything in particular that you would like or want, please just note me.
Thank you all for the well wishes, prayers, good energies and for the support. I will update you all once again once he is out of surgery.
***Post-Op Update - 19 July 2015***
First off, I'd like to thank everyone who has so generously donated, shared and offered their support to us through this extremely difficult time. I am just so humbled by the support from the DeviantArt community. Words will never be able to express my gratitude.
My brother had an operation last night at around 9:00pm CST. Once they opened him up they realized that his injuries were much worse than they initially thought; and they initially thought that they were fairly bad. The left side of his pelvis had been rotated to face his side, so basically his hip socket sticks out towards his behind instead of parallel with his shoulders. Initially it was believed that he would be able to get around on crutches after surgery, but now they have said that the fractures are so bad that he will be wheelchair bound for a minimum of 3 months, perhaps much longer. If he does attempt to put any weight on his pelvis/hip, even while on crutches, the risk of rebreaking his pelvis and doing even worse damage intensifies. So, he will be having to use various adaptive equipment such as wheelchair transfer benches, grab bars, and maybe even a lift to get him in and out of bed.
I'll post another update once the doctors update us.
Thanks for all the support, God bless!
A new detail arose from an eye witness that we were made aware today... the marks on his face are from being kicked in the head while being yelled at repeatedly: "you deserve to die." I am not sure if this was before or after they ran him over, or not. We do know that it was a large 4WD work truck that ran him over which helps to explain the severity of the injuries.
Every update I receive, or new detail I hear is making it so much harder to post. How plainly evil some people can be is just mind-boggling.
***Another Small Update***
During his surgery they used a camera to follow along his urethra up inside his penis (I am sorry guys, I know this is making you cringe)
and they discovered that the urethra was actually split in two and not just torn like they had thought/hoped. It will be a while before we know if the surgery repaired the damage or if he will need another operation in the future or if he will be required to use catheters for the rest of his life. Hopefully the damage will heal. The Morphine he is on isn't even touching the pain he is experiencing, so he isn't even able to sleep or rest without being in an excruciating amount of pain. The doctors equated the damage to his pelvis to being jumped on by an elephant; it is almost like they backed the truck up and ran him over twice but by then my brother was unconscious and didn't know what was going on.
Hopefully the witnesses won't be too afraid to come forward and testify.
***Update 23 July 2015 - Nothing Major Yet***
I am sorry I haven't updated you guys in a while and I want to apologize now in advance for any potential pissed off/foul language that follows.
Things have been hectic between trying to visit my brother at Ben Taub Hospital, preparing the house for his new needs such as getting a wheelchair for him, which we are still working on, and making wheelchair accessible paths to his bedroom and to the bathroom. We are also having to come up with adaptive equipment to transfer him from a chair to his bed (we had to get him a new bed, too), the toilet, a bath bench, into and out of the car for doctor's appointments, and to just make sure he is not stuck in the house for 3 months solid as he'd go stir crazy. Adaptive technology is NOT cheap, by the way, so if we are unable to purchase what he needs then we must get creative and build it ourselves out of vinyl covered plywood or something.
On top of all of this, we are having to do all of the leg work for the police in order to throw these scumbags under the jail where they belong... It is pretty fucking shitty that we can't even rely on the cops to do their damn jobs! These assholes who tried to murder my brother are hiding out in their house, not even a full block from us... I can see their home from my backyard!! By the time the damn cops get off their dough-nut break to investigate/arrest them they could get away! It is just sickening me sooo much!!
Anyway, he is still in the hospital and we are not sure when he will be able to come home. I am thinking not before the end of next week. His son is still in tears over it. Seth is 13 in just 3 days so he is trying to "be a big boy" but he just has fallen apart over it, understandably so. The doctors have taken my brother off of the morphine since they can only prescribe it for so long. The pain medicine they are giving him now is not doing anything for the pain, but there isn't much else that can be done. I am pretty concerned that he has not had a bowel movement since the incident; I am hoping it is due to the morphine as it can cause severe constipation and not due to some sort of bowel obstruction as those can be very dangerous. With his injuries I would not rule it out all together, though; it cannot do your internal organs any good to have a huge work pick-up truck run you over.
Anyway, I took these photos on my last visit to the hospital, I know some may be a bit graphic, sorry about that.
His Left Shoulder
His Left Elbow
His Left Knee
His Hip/Pelvic Region